How To Educate My Child?
Today's parents may have a hard time understanding and knowing which method is best suited to educate their child. Many parents encounter difficulty with traditions and cultures received from their parents or with the cultural differences of each parent. Choosing the type of education to give becomes hazardous. Even more difficult for the habits of parents are the prohibitions of society and the law. The decadence of the moral fiber of Christian education makes parents - Christians and non-Christians - tremble. Parents are asking "What future for my child?" Here, I will suggest a few approaches. First, do not feel guilty! Do your best according to your knowledge. Get informed and documented with experts in the field. Activate and exercise your faith in God. The Bible is a great source of common sense education showing examples to follow and those to shun. Second, each parent should question their cultural heritage and determine what is to be left behind and what to keep as a principle of child education. It is true that our parents did their best. But they have not always made the best choice based on today's knowledge. Third, and more specifically, I suggest to parents not to be dogmatic or dictatorial with their children.
Call them and reason with them. Sometimes our methods reflect so much our fears and our endeavor to protect our own reputation. Thus, the child is placed second in the rank of direct interest, and he becomes a victim of the demands that the parents have on themselves. This is because our discipline is about avoiding shame and embarrassment rather than educating the child to think for one's self. Fourth, each parent wants the best for their child. But it is not a libertine and lax education when the time is given to the child to assimilate the given instruction. To cultivate, one has to prepare the soil, sow, water, prune and heal a plant. That's why God is so patient with humanity - us. Finally, God is not obligatorily demanding "obedience immediately at any price" even if it is desirable within trust. God rejects forced obedience to human beings capable of reasoning. Love also means to forbid, but in full respect of the person and especially of the child. When the choice is made by the child, the consequences must be explained with measure. Education with love and mutual respect set with boundaries and a code of life is the most balanced for the child. Obedience always brings the best fruit for the one who obeys. Nevertheless, God understands in his patience and love that "obedience" will best be achieved when it is provoked and motivated by the love received. Love is the greatest of the fundamental principles of Christian education and education in general. Lets not forget this one good thing!